It’s best to tell the person yourself rather than having a friend do it or having the person hear it through the grapevine. If the person hears it from someone else, he or she is going to feel even worse. The person may feel like you’ve made a fool of him or her, or that you didn’t even care enough to bother being honest. The person may feel even more hurt or angrier if he or she has to hear the bad news from someone else.

It’s usually very difficult for us to be honest and to tell someone that our feelings have changed. Even though it’s perfectly normal and natural for a person’s feelings to change, we may none the less, feel guilty about it. We may feel that we’re some terrible, disloyal, bad sort of person. Sometimes we may feel so guilty, so disloyal and so afraid of the other person’s angry, hurt feelings that we may pick a fight so we’ll have an ‘excuse’ for splitting up. Rather than honestly admitting the real reason we want to end the relationship, we may try to shift the ‘blame’ to the other person. We may try to pretend that it’s the other person’s fault, that it’s something he or she has done or that it’s something about him or her as a person that’s causing the split. But, if you think about it, is it really right or really fair to shift the ‘blame’?

Our advice is be honest, but be kind. You might say something like ‘I really want to be your friend, but I don’t want to be tied down to just one person’ or ‘You’re really terrific and I really care about you, but I just feel I’m too young to settle down and date only one person.’

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Many, if not most, boys and girls engage in some form of sex play during childhood. Psychologists and sex experts agree that this is a perfectly normal and natural part of growing up and learning about sex. It doesn’t mean that there’s anything ‘wrong’ or ‘nasty’ about you if you’ve done these things.

However, bullying someone else or being bullied into doing something sexual by another child can be harmful. If you are bullied into doing something sexual by another child – or, for that matter, by anyone – it’s important that you talk this problem over with your parent or another grown-up you trust.

If it’s natural and normal, why do parents make you stop if they catch you playing doctor?

When parents discover their children playing doctor or other sex games, they usually make the children stop. Some parents even become angry or upset with their children if they find them playing sex games.

There may be any number of reasons why parents make children stop and/or get upset. For instance, some parents have religious values that lead them to feel that sex play in children is morally wrong or sinful. Some parents were caught doing the same thing when they were children and their parents stopped them or became angry with them. So they react in the same way their parents did. Moreover, some parents don’t realize that sex play is natural and normal, so they become upset by what they think is unnatural or abnormal behaviour.

Even parents who don’t have religious objections and who realize sex play is a natural part of growing up usually put a stop to it when they find children engaging in sex play. Part of the job of being a parent is to teach your children what kind of behaviour is considered proper, polite and socially acceptable. For instance, if someone didn’t tell them not to, many little children wouldn’t think twice about taking off their clothes and walking down the street naked. In our society it’s not considered proper or socially acceptable for people to go out in public nude, so parents usually teach their children to keep their clothes on. The same is true of sex play. In our society it is not considered proper or socially acceptable for children to take off their clothes and look at other people’s sex organs or to play doctor. So even though they don’t necessarily think playing sex games is sinful or nasty, parents usually stop this kind of thing because it isn’t considered socially acceptable or proper behaviour.

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Anyone, of any age, who thinks he or she may have an STD should go straight to a special clinic for free advice, testing and treatment. It is not necessary to be referred by your GP. The names and addresses of special clinics can be found on posters and notices displayed in doctors’ surgeries, health centres, post offices, and Citizens’ Advice Bureaux. The special clinics are sometimes called the Departments of Genito-urinary Medicine, STD clinics or Special Treatment Centres. You can also call a Brook Advisory Centre for advice on how to get treatment.

Testing and treatment is entirely confidential. You don’t need your parents’ permission. The people at the clinic will not inform your parents (or anyone else for that matter) that you have been tested and/or treated for an STD. The people who work at the special clinics are used to dealing with young people who have STDs. You needn’t feel embarrassed or ashamed to go to a clinic.

Even if you don’t have symptoms, but think you may have had contact with an infected person, it’s important that you be tested. Even if your symptoms have disappeared, the germs may still be in your body causing damage, and you can still pass the infection to others. So it’s important to be tested even if your symptoms have subsided.

You should go to a clinic immediately so you can be tested and treated as soon as possible. If you do have an STD, it’s important that you notify all your recent sexual partners so they, too, can be tested and treated.

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If pregnancy occurs, there are three choices: continuing the pregnancy and keeping the baby; continuing the pregnancy but giving up the child for adoption; and abortion. If you are not certain which is the best choice for you, your GP or the doctor at the place where you got your pregnancy test can refer you to a counsellor who will help you decide. Regardless of what decision you make, you have the right to sympathetic counselling and to complete information about each of the choices available. Even if you feel certain about your decision, you may find it helpful to discuss your decision with a counsellor.

Is it legal for a teenager to have an abortion?

Yes, but young women under the age of 16 need the permission of a parent or guardian in order to obtain an abortion. In addition, women of all ages must have two doctors agree that the woman or any children she already has will suffer physical or emotional harm if she continues the pregnancy or that the baby is likely to be born handicapped or that continuing the pregnancy would endanger the woman’s life.

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Sterilization involves a surgical operation, which is called vasectomy in men. Vasectomy is a minor operation that can be done in a doctor’s surgery under a local anaesthetic, but is also often carried out in a clinic or hospital under a general anaesthetic. The vas deferens are cut, sealed or otherwise blocked so that sperm can no longer travel from the testicles to the penis. Female sterilization is a more involved operation, done under a general anaesthetic, and usually requires at least a short stay in hospital. The Fallopian tubes are cut, sealed or otherwise blocked so that ova can no longer travel through them and therefore can’t be fertilized by sperm.

Sterilization is a permanent method, so it is only for people who are sure they won’t want children in the future. After the operation, a man still ejaculates, but there are no sperm in his semen. After sterilization men still produce sperm in their testicles and women still produce ripe ova, but the sperm and ova are reabsorbed by the body. Only one member of a couple-either the man or woman (not both) – need have the operation in order to protect against pregnancy.

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