GAMES FOR DEPRESSED COUPLES – NEGATE LIFE
Depressed people negate life. They have felt negated as a child (or in some more-recent period), and now negate themselves and others. This serves a defensive function of protecting them from negation—for if they negate themselves as well as others before they negate them, they will be spared the pain of further negation. A secondary gain of depression is that it wins sympathy from others. However, generally depressed people reject sympathy. They cry out for it, only to reject it when it is offered. This repeating pattern expresses extreme ambivalence. It is also a reenactment of what happened during some earlier traumatic period.
One of my patients continually negated me. He would come late, pay late, and fall asleep during sessions. If I said anything to him, he would denigrate it, calling it “stupid.” He denigrated my office and me alike, saying my furniture was cheap and my clothes tacky. If I tried to talk to him he would say he did not feel like talking, and if I tried to help him he would say nobody could help him. He also negated everybody else in his life. As soon as he had sex with a woman, he would feel disgusted by her and never want to see her again. Anybody who chose him for a friend was eventually seen as worthless.
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Posted by admin on April 9th, 2009 :: Filed under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction
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