JUNK SEX VS LOVING SEX – MATURE SEXUALITY
The seeds of resistance to intimacy are planted in early childhoodr-watered throughout adolescence and young adulthood, and become fully grown sexual blocks in adult life. These blocks manifest themselves in a myriad of defensive postures, such as angry defiance or martyrdom or anxious sub-missiveness or appeasement or perfectionism—all of which are attempts to control both ourselves and others. As long as we are controlling and manipulating people, we cannot allow genuine intimacy to develop. It must develop voluntarily and cannot be manipulated or controlled.
Hence, mature sexuality is free of control or manipulation. It is a voluntary sharing of affection between two consenting adults. Just as a mother voluntarily shares her breast with her infant, so a lover voluntarily shares his or her sexuality. In this voluntary sharing between two consenting adults, a mutuality occurs which becomes the framework for mature loving. You cannot will this process to happen by determining to be more loving. Rather, it comes about through the acceptance of everything about ourselves and our lovers—our hopes, our fears, our beauty, our ugliness, our loves, our hates, and in particular everything we would like to disown and disavow in both ourselves and others.
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Posted by admin on April 9th, 2009 :: Filed under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction
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